So, why am I sharing this?
After almost 10 years of knowing this man (that I do truly admire) I have learned a few things.
Once I was at my friend's house trying to decide what activity was next. I was around 13 years old and after suggesting things to do, I thought we would ask her mom. My best friend pulled me aside and said, "No. Let's leave my mom alone right now." I was totally thrown off. "Why?" "She is fighting with my dad!" She exclaimed with a "Duh!" tone. My attention was drawn immediately to her mother.
She wasn't mean to me or upset at all. She quietly did what mother's do: dishes, dinner. Her father walked into the bedroom. There were no slamming doors, raised voices, awkward moments for company. There wasn't harsh name-calling, belittling, or fierce words being used. There was SILENCE. I was in awe and I recorded the experience in my journal. I wanted that for my future. I put that attribute high on the list, right next to HOT, on my requirements for a husband.